Lesson 3: Learn the fine art of wishing.

‘When you wish upon a star

makes no difference who you are

anything your heart desires will come to you’

Walt Disney’s ‘Pinocchio’, 1940

The first definition in the Concise Oxford Englsh Dictionary of the word ‘wish’ is: Desire something that cannot or probably will not happen.

Well, so who is right? The venerable ‘Tome of words’ or the Blue Fairy who turned a puppet into a real boy? It just so happens that, in recent years, there has been a spate of books published on the law of attraction or, to use the more press-friendly colloquialism, ‘cosmic ordering’. The book and movie,both entitled ‘The Secret’ are, perhaps, the most famous examples of this genre.

At the most basic level, these books would appear to tell the reader that the world is their oyster, anything they desire will come true. In reality, it is just not as simple as that. Well, it never is, is it? In my opinion, what these books are actually saying is ‘what goes around,comes around’ as well as have faith.

What do I mean by that?

Well, let’s look at the classic wish request:

‘Please, I wish I had bigger boobs’. Believe it or not, that statement isn’t actually as positive-affirming as you might initially suppose. Confused? Let me explain; by wishing I had bigger boobs, I am actually acknowledging that my boobs are NOT as big as I’d like and that I’d like more of them SOME DAY. This is actually a negative! To wish yourself morewell-endowed you need to SEE yourself with the increased cuppage and BELIEVE you have it ALREADY. This is seen as positive and leaves no doubt.

Who will grant my wish?

Depending on which book you read, this will be explained as either: Fate, ’The Universe’, The natural law of the Universe’,Angels, God. It doesn’t really matter how it is explained, the most important thing is to BELIEVE that we do not know EVERYTHING and there are a lot of unexplained mysteries and just leave it at that. That’s what I do.

The first thing you’ll notice by ‘cosmically ordering’ is just how hard it is to wish for something and completely and utterly believe that your wish will be answered. It is all too easy for the doubts to creep in and as soon as there is doubt, negativity and therefore the possibility of failure creeps in.This is what I found to be the most difficult thing to do, to be positive and JUST KNOW AND BELIEVE it will happen. I would say it probably took me a year of practising my wish technique, asking for something, having faith and just waiting for it to happen. Sometimes I still get it wrong as I don’t always know what to wish for or,more pertinently, how to be specific enough so that I get exactly what I requested. This is a skill I am still trying to learn!

Have I had any success in ‘cosmic ordering’? Yes, I have. I suppose the most significant one was that I asked for the next man I would get involved with to be childfree. Why? Because I have 3 children of my own as well as step-children and I believed it would be easier for me and my children if we did not have to deal with step-parents, step-siblings etc. After about a year, I went on to meet someone who was childless. He was also a commitment-phobe. I was not specific enough in my request!!! Oh dear, live and learn!

I have asked for clients, I cosmically ordered a car,and parking spaces, weight-loss. The more you practice, the better you get.

On the subject of cosmically ordering weight-loss, I caught a stomach bug and could not eat for several days. Yep, the Universe answered my request – just not in the way I had expected…..!

What I have noticed most about cosmic ordering is the way my thinking has evolved. I am now more able to see the positive in a situation and no matter how grim things can get, I KNOW that it is a temporary state of affairs.

Sometimes it is still hard to remain positive especially when all around is doom and gloom. The difference now is that  I KNOW it won’t be forever and, when the sun shines, when I find myself singing to a song, I always take a moment to thank the Universe for what I have – and then – whilst I’m feeling on top of the world, I quickly put in my cosmic order request as at that point I KNOW things will be all right.

I just need to learn to be more patient and not expect everything NOW!

‘Remember, it’s the absence of doubt that will bring your desire faster.

‘Michael J. Losier, ‘Law of Attraction’

Reading List:

‘Cosmic Ordering’ by Jonathan Cainer - the astrologer for the Daily Mail has written a fun, easy to understand book that you can manage over a weekend. May be a bit too airy-fairy for some but a good entrty-level book for those you wish to understand more about the power of the Universe.

‘Law of Attraction’ by Michael J. Losier- This book is rather no-nonsense and has a kind of ‘marketing module’ feel about it. Ideal for those in management, the author is an N.L.P. practitioner.

‘The Secret’ by Rhonda Byrne - this book has had world-wide press, there is a movie and a website. Definitely the most commercial. Personally I found it the most disjointed to read and, had I not been aware of ‘cosmic ordering’ or the ‘law of attraction’, I would have most probably given up after the first chapter.

‘The Cosmic Ordering Service’ by Barbel Mohr- This is the book that started it off for me. My friend Sarah told me to read it when I was going through a rough patch. I made another friend Elli suspend all disbelief, read it and just apply the principles. Two weeks later, when I saw her next she said, ‘Be careful what you wish for’. She got her wish but she also got a little bit more!  Incidentally, Noel Edmonds credits this book with re-launching his career during a hiatus.

‘It Works’ by RHJ – This is a wonderful pocket-sized book which was first published anonymously in 1926. in 2004, it was re-printed for the 42nd time.  The preface says: ‘A concise,definite,resultful plan with rules, explanations and suggestions for bettering your condition in life.’ It is a book that does not ponder too long on the whys and wherefores but one you can read and re-read time and time again. My absolute favourite.

I won’t wish you luck. You won’t need it. Know what you want, ask for it and believe. You deserve it.

Just make sure the wish will not harm anyone – that would not be nice! In the words of Byron: ‘All who joy would win must share it. Happiness was born a twin.’

All you have to do is become a bit more receptive

Jonathan Cainer